If I have to walk on egg shells to keep from upsetting him,
If I often wonder if he treats me rudely because of past offenses,
If love is patient, kind, not rude, keeps no record of wrongs, is not easily angered, and is not self-seeking (1 Corinthians 13:4-5), then I could conclude that no, he does not love me.
If I treat him with respect even when he is callous,
If I show interest by asking questions even if he does not reciprocate,
If I am patient and do not mirror his emotions when he gets flustered,
If I do not judge what I cannot understand,
If I gently speak the difficult words that need to be said (even while cracking the eggshells),
If I forgive him for not loving me back,
Then I love him not just with words but actions too.
Jesus said it is easy to love someone who is loveable. Anyone can do that. But if you love someone who is hard to love through the love of Christ, then you honor Him even more.
It hurts to love someone who doesn’t love you back, a feeling that God must be well acquainted with. He calls us to do the hard things and then infuses us with His power so that we can do them.
I love you, brother. If I don’t say it, I hope you can someday see it.