God is fair. God is just. God is good. I really truly believe this with all my heart. But I’ve been known to ask, why do you get more than me? Or why do I get more than you? I’m not just talking about possessions or money. I’m talking about talent, health, opportunities, strength, personality, ability to connect with others, etc.
Why does one get perfect health while I get a rare liver disease? Why am I born an introvert with a heart that wants to be an extrovert? Why do I get to be born in a Christian culture while another is born into in Islamic culture in Afghanistan? Why do I get to be a mother, but another must struggle with infertility? Why do I get a childhood of relative ease while another struggles growing up jumping from one foster home to another?
God isn’t giving away the answers quite yet. He doesn’t have to, even if it seems unfair. But He has a reason. Just read the parable of the talents, where the master gives varying responsibilities to each of the servants according to their abilities. God is not obligated to treat us all equally or give us all the same things.
So some have more than me while I have more than others. That’s how life is – a sort of pecking order – some above, some the same, some beneath. This reality leaves us with three choices:
- We can use what we have or don’t have as an excuse for why we do or don’t do something.
- We can waste away our lives playing the comparison game, complaining about the some that others have that we didn’t get.
- We can gratefully accept what we have been given and do everything we can with it – give it all we’ve got.
So rather than asking “Why don’t I have that?” or “Why didn’t got make me more like that?” or “why did that happen to me?”, I resolve to ask more often “what” to do with what I it, instead.